And it's a very natural phenomenon and very normal for someone to conclude if I just avoid what makes me anxious, then I will be safe, then I will be okay, then I will be less triggered. And while those things might be true in the short run, often over time, it's not a sustainable long term coping strategy. Because many times what we are avoiding are actually the things that help us grow and help us develop competence and help us develop a sense that we can navigate and be okay in and through hard things, that we can be triggered and be okay.

…If the message that is looping in your head is a message of anxiety telling you to avoid something that's actually healthy for you, good for you, that's something that you want in your life, but you're avoiding it because that anxiety message is so strong, then consider really writing it down, typing it out, externalizing it, and connecting it with anxiety's voice and see if that creates some distance for you. Sometimes just that shift alone is so significant that it can help you really begin to work towards that claiming of a more true narrative.