Some of us are more likely to admit that we have limits and are fairly in tune with naming those limits, and others of us are not and continue to hold up perhaps an unrealistic standard of what we feel like we should be or should be accomplishing or our capacity in a way that doesn't match our reality. And that can be a continual source of frustration, it can be a source of disappointment, and it can also really move into being more of a source of shame if the inner critic is so harsh.

And I recognize that in the world that we live in, we are often rushing and going and hurrying from one thing to the next. Even how we might approach just each day through a to do list and checking things off, there can be this sense of “my whole day is based on my productivity.” And of course it feels great to check things off, but what happens sometimes is that we get in kind of an autopilot dynamic... And it takes some intentional reflection, which really comes from slowing down enough to even make space to consider how you're doing, the state of your heart, how you're feeling, what you're thinking, what you need…

And yet it's so important to consider that concept of sustainability, because while caregiving may be a short term experience, it often is for a longer road. And in order to show up daily, or just about daily for another person, we need to be tuned in to the concept of considering also what we need in order to keep pouring out. I think all of you have probably heard that quote about how you can't pour from an empty cup. And it's one of those that no matter how many times you hear, it can be really good to keep being reminded and to consider for yourself...Am I filled up? What helps me keep pouring out? ...Of all the things, all the various coping strategies and choices and habits and things I can do with my time, which of those things are so life-giving to me that they help me pour out and care for the people that I need to care for?