And I just want to encourage you, if you are someone who is struggling with the concept of boundaries, to press into those principles we just talked about— that they're good, that they're healthy, that boundaries are not mean, that they can be conveyed with kindness and respect, and that they lead to wholehearted yeses and less resentment, which ultimately helps your relationships with people, because you're not simmering with resentment on the inside, because your commitments match and align with what you're needing on the inside.

And also, when we can name what we value the most, it can really help with kind of as a byproduct, really creating some openness and flexibility about the rest. So, for instance, if we value kindness the most in a friend or trustworthiness, then that's going to be a core value that really guides making and deepening friendships. And yet, when our core value is not what brand shoes someone has or what their hair looks like, then there is this openness to, you know, someone whose hair is different than yours, or who wears different kinds of shoes than your child does or than you do. And it's really a beautiful thing.