And yet sometimes we make it more difficult on ourselves with how we respond to the uncertainty. And what I mean is that often we write a script in our heads of what's going to happen and even worst case scenarios and catastrophic thinking that we might believe is going to prepare us for the worst. And maybe we'll be less disappointed if that's our frame of mind or something. But I think what's often the case is that it doesn't really prepare you, and in fact it creates a lot of anxiety and fear and distraction from present life and reality when we're so focused on this script that we are so sure of how it's going to play out.

So that when you have a narrative that's really causing problems because it's so rigid or fixed, it's so all or nothing that you can challenge it. I see this all the time with things like related to exercise or eating to soften that narrative of just because someone didn't exercise on one day doesn't mean they have to throw in the towel or that they're lazy.Actually it could have been what they needed, that they were sick or exhausted or had other priorities. And so we can make space for a softer narrative and that they can the next day, go for a walk again and keep living in the way that they value…