And yet sometimes we make it more difficult on ourselves with how we respond to the uncertainty. And what I mean is that often we write a script in our heads of what's going to happen and even worst case scenarios and catastrophic thinking that we might believe is going to prepare us for the worst. And maybe we'll be less disappointed if that's our frame of mind or something. But I think what's often the case is that it doesn't really prepare you, and in fact it creates a lot of anxiety and fear and distraction from present life and reality when we're so focused on this script that we are so sure of how it's going to play out.

…In that realm, there is a dynamic of feeling like you have some agency over your own life. Whether that's in the workplace, whether that's in a marriage or dating type relationship, whether that's in a friendship, whether that's in your family of being a sibling or a daughter or a son or a parent, or all of the above, that you get to speak into your life. Meaning when something is not okay with you, you can say that. And ideally you have people in your life who will hear your voice and respect it too…

…If the message that is looping in your head is a message of anxiety telling you to avoid something that's actually healthy for you, good for you, that's something that you want in your life, but you're avoiding it because that anxiety message is so strong, then consider really writing it down, typing it out, externalizing it, and connecting it with anxiety's voice and see if that creates some distance for you. Sometimes just that shift alone is so significant that it can help you really begin to work towards that claiming of a more true narrative.